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Finding A Path.

What do I want to do with my life?

I’m simply unsure of what I want to do.

Things I have considered:

  1.  Day care worker/preschool teacher- Im around kids all day, which I love. problems?  Im taking care of kids all day; too much of a good thing? Pay isn’t typically too great(or even decent). Feel like I’m not doing enough.
  2. Parent Educator- I love this idea, i simply cant find much info on it. What all it entails, what schooling is best(early childhood education, child development, family studies???).
  3. Parent-child class teacher- Also love this idea, Just not sure how stable of a job choice this is. How much I’d make. Lack of info on how to get there.
  4. Parent-infant/toddler swim coach- Young children, bonding with their parents, fun. However; pay, not much info, I don’t know anything about swimming.
  5. Toddler Gym Coach- Fun. Pay, lack of info.
  6. Nanny- refer to number 1
  7. Social Worker- I love this idea of being apart of CPS and helping whether it be removing a child from an unsafe home, returning the child to the birth family, or adoption. The problem is sooo much desk work.
  8. Midwife- Im fascinated by birth, and love the idea of helping woman through it.  my comfort level of touching another woman is the only con. Watching countless videos of birth(All home, hospital, birth center, natural, medicated, and C-section) will never relate to an actual birth in person while participating in the delivery.
  9. Lactation consultant- I really havn’t looked into this much.
  10.  Play Therapist- Helpful, with kids… A LOT of schooling… doesn’t seem to be a very secure professions plus a lack of info on it.

I’m really lost in what I want to do. I love kids(especially birth-preschool years). I spend all my free time reading, learning, and writing about topics relating to parenting and that age group. I’ve been thinking about working on getting a degree in either Early Childhood Education or Child Development(early child development as well). I really don’t want to set a path to either until I decide my career goals…. I certainly feel lost.

Any information, suggestions, thoughts will be greatly appreciated. This is more of a journal than a blog post though 😛

Good-life to you all.

My Biggest Parenting Pet Peeve.

Now in a lot of cases when it comes to parenting it’s not anyone else’s place to judge a parents decisions or styles. In most cases it should be a “mind your own” situation. However, sometimes it’s definitely okay to 1. have an opinion on someone else’s parenting or 2. step in.  Sometimes its necessary.

Other times, as caring individuals(or opinionated ones), we just can’t help ourselves, whether its necessary or not.

I think everyone has parenting pet peeves(even those who aren’t parents).

So here’s my biggest: Judging your child’s needs by size. I mean I realize that your barely two year old looks four or five, but hes still a toddler. Just because he looks like a big kid doesn’t mean he’s ready to behave and be treated like one. He might LOOK to big to be held, but its not impossible and he certainly needs it.

When I was younger I had a nephew, well call him Joel. Joel was born premature, now for some reason he grew like a weed. I know most premature babies can take years even to catch up, but by six months I had strangers telling me I was lying about his age. I’m not joking, while out to dinner I had an old couple politely ask about how old he is, when I responded “almost seven months” they insisted I was wrong or lying (until his mother came back and confirmed). Now Joel’s older brother(also born a premie) was the complete opposite, as he struggled with eating. So by the time Joel was two his older brother was eight. Joel weighed more than half of what his brother weighed.

What really irked me about this situation was that his mother treated him as if he was the age he looked, not the age he was. With one child behind and him being ahead, he really did seem a lot older than he was.

I remember specifically one time Joel was behaving really upset(now I spent every weekend with these kids, I knew their signals) I was bouncing him and holding him in my arms trying to comfort him and my sis said to me “Stop babying him, hes just upset because he couldn’t have that toy. Put him down. He’s too big to be held”. I really wanted to say “I’m babying him because he needs it.”, but he said it for me. Moments after his mom said that to me(and right before I put him down via her wishes) he threw up down my shirt. For some reason she still claimed he shouldn’t be held. She cleaned him up, comforted him (refusing to hold him, sitting next to him rubbing his back). She said he’s too big..

He certainly wasn’t too big as in she literally COULDN’T hold him (I was sixteen and managed holding him just fine, she was much larger than me.) and this wasn’t the only behavior or decision she attributed to his size as if that was his age.

He was a two year old.

My point here after that long story is that your child’s size is not their actual, mental, or emotional age. Your two year old could look like a seven year old and still need that two year old type attention. Your one year old could look three and still be a baby.

I Didn’t Know Him.

You know that funeral, or memorial, or assembly scene in movies after someone dies. You know when there’s all those people crying; who didn’t know the deceased? There’s always a character who’s complaining about it, calling them out, or getting angry because they didn’t know them.

Maybe they are crying for attention. Or maybe they can’t handle everyone around them being sad. Maybe this death reminds them of someone close to them whom they lost. Maybe death itself makes them uncomfortable.

But did you ever think that maybe that boy who only had one or two classes with him is actually hurting because he remembers one deep conversation with him… Or that girl who is actually crying because he made her laugh sometimes… Did you ever think that maybe that kid who had never talked to him actually had a crush on him and can’t believe hes gone… Or that when I balled my eyes out for a boy I never knew it was because I couldn’t get his smile out of my mind ?

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I didn’t know him, but I remember staring a little longer than I should have because I found him so gorgeous. I didn’t talk to him much, but sometimes he told jokes that I couldn’t help but laugh at. I wasn’t close to him, but I had a small crush on him. I didn’t know him, and yet since the moment I heard the news I couldn’t close my eyes without seeing his face forming that handsome smile.

Every time a room is empty all I can think is “you will never see that smile form again”. That smile that I saw, that mouth that made me laugh, it’s gone. It’s just not here anymore.

I didn’t love him. He wasn’t my world. I didn’t lose everything the day he died. And  I know his family and friends are devastatingly hurt and I can’t imagine or even begin to relate.

But, don’t assume I didn’t lose something the day he died just because I didn’t know him.

I’ll never stop being sorry that I didn’t know him.

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I hope you find comfort no matter what your going through or who you lost. Good-life to you all.

Am I Selfish?

Ever since I was a toddler I was obsessed with babies. The older I got, the more I loved kids. Around eight I found a new fascination- adoption. Through out high school I read endless parenting books, adoption books, foster care books, blogs, articles, and stories. I LOVED the idea of adoption and I loved learning on these topics. I always felt it would be apart of my story.  Continue reading “Am I Selfish?”

One Bad Perspective.

So today I got into quite the argument with a lady on YouTube about adoption. I know, arguing with someone on the internet is never a good idea… Continue reading “One Bad Perspective.”

Co-Bathing.

Recently I’ve found the topic of co-bathing to be very interesting. It’s also very controversial (but let’s be honest  what in the world of parenting isn’t controversial?).  Continue reading “Co-Bathing.”

Raise kids who talk back.

Believe it or not, I think you want to teach your kids to talk back. Continue reading “Raise kids who talk back.”

The Sleeping battle.

Where should my baby sleep? What are the options? What’s the safe way to go?  Continue reading “The Sleeping battle.”

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Welcome to Parenting Thoughts!

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